“Q”: I am with this guy, I like a lot. Sexually he’s a freak and so am I, but how do I tell him without hurting his feelings that I need a-lot more from him sexually. (head game is iight but it could be a lot better)
“A”: Omg!!! Congratulations on your relationship! I am wishing you 2 the absolute best!! Now you notice how I used the word best? Meaning how is it that me, a complete stranger, wants the best for you and you don’t?? As in, you claim to really like this guy, which is great, but you don’t like him enough to be honest with him? or to show him how you need to be catered to??? Seems like to me you may not want the best for yourself or him for that matter….
I understand you not wanting to hurt his feelings, but that means your’e willing to continue to be unsatisfied all the while he’s reaping all the satisfaction?? (NEWS FLASH: that usually leads to suppressed emotions, passive aggressive behavior annnnnnnddd cheating… which will hurt his feelings A LOT more!!) Believe it or not, guys actually like to show and prove and they definitely like to please!!! —As in I once called a guy out for tapping out too quick annnndddddd BOY the next time around, I WAS THE ONE THAT TAPPED OUT, because he literally was trying to prove a point!!! Sooo telling the truth wasn’t that bad!!
AS IN ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE!!!
Honestly though, snaps and claps for you!! Because the fact that you know what you want and how you want it, is the first step! Annndd sis you’ve already got that checked off!! Most women aren’t sure how they want it sooo they usually just go with the flow and ultimately have a unsatisfactory sex life because they don’t want to “hurt” his feelings!!
Soooo I say, if you’re as big of a freak as you say, transfer some of that freak energy to “I’M A BAD ASS B!TCH THAT WANTS IT LIKE THIS” energy annnnddd just tell him. If you need to take some liquid courage, I’m not opposed to doing so because sex with your partner is important and should be enjoyed by both parties!! Noooowwww If you rather not just come out and say it, which is understandable, try waiting until you 2 are actually having sex to coach him. Hell if need be, direct his head! Tell his ass what needs to be done to get the job done!!! Because ultimately you’re giving him too much credit by thinking he will be able to read your mind!!
All in all, you’re currently risking your sexual satisfaction for his feelings and the question is, are you gonna risk that temporary feeling of embarrassment to be rewarded with the head your heart desires?? If you like him how you say, show it by being honest with him. Whether you tell him now or show him later, it should be done, sooo your sex life can be fun!! And remember: without Risk, there will be no Reward.
Goodluck…
