“A”: I LOVE THE FATHER OF MY CHILD. BUT HE’S BROKE. NOW, THERE’S THIS NEW GUY WHO HAS MONEY, BUT THE CHEMISTRY IS NOT THAT GREAT & HE’S 10 YEARS OLDER...WHAT SHOULD I DO?
“A”: Congratulations on being a mom!!! Now with that, you have to just figure out what your’e willing to put up with. I mean who’s to say your father’s child will be broke forever, but if he’s working diligently and you’re willing to hold him down through this time and he is MAKING AN EFFORT TO GROW, thennnn I don’t see anything wrong with you choosing love. Especially because everyone cant make you happy or even deserves to be in your presence soooo if he is who ultimately makes you happy and you care about him, thennnnn by all means, see it through with him. BECAUSE this new older guy, although financially stable, may not have the ultimate best in mind for you, may not help you grow in the ways that are needed and hell may not always have the money he has now…🤷🏽♀️
Soooo you’re ultimately taking a risk with both men meaning you have to choose between a financially “better” life immediately (that may not be the answer to all your needs) or a possible financially “better” life eventually with the father of your child. BUT you need to understand that both sides will come with shit, it’s just a matter of who’s shit your’e willing to smell…
I would suggest making a list of CONS and PROS for BOTH guys and have a conversation with them regarding their goals and plans for not just there life, but the life they envision for the 3 of you!! You have to think about your child, and who will be the best example for them along with who will help lead you into becoming the woman you wish to be.
Think of it this way, “The grass will always be greener where YOU WATER IT!! Soooo it ultimately alll falls back on you, what bests fits your goals and the life you are aiming to build.
